Memories

kmc
3 min readMar 2, 2021

As I write down this passage, I would not like to focus or give any brief writing on any scientific research as to what memories are as I usually would. Instead, I would like to focus purely on memory as in experiences that humans keep locked inside their head, both good and bad.

“Why are we born to remember all the sufferings that we have gone through while having good memories turn into a sharp knife as time goes on.”

Sad Memories

When we experience something sad, it is locked into our minds and it can resurface almost anytime, causing pain in our heart. These kinds of memories, is it really worth it to remember? despite knowing that sometimes it might have taught a person to be smarter or be more experienced, it comes with the cost of having to bear the burden of the memory. People say that it is part of life and that it is something everyone goes through and unavoidable. That I can accept to a certain extent, but what if I don’t want to be hurt? As humans the moment we could remember an experience, it was bound to hurt along with time. There is a saying that goes “Time heals all wounds.” As we go along the wounds from these experiences slowly go away, which is a lie. As humans, we remember such experiences to retain what we learnt, heal all wounds? it might cover up the wound but it will never heal, unless that person is willing to be hurt that way again. this is a no-win situation, and hence a person born would have to suffer.

Happy Memories

What’s disgusting is that the happiest of memories could be turned to the sharpest of knives too. Let’s talk about memories with your loved ones or friends. Such memories we are able to relive to once again find joy albeit slightly dulled from that time. But nothing lasts forever and human life is awfully… short. A person could just be gone, like my grandfather who died recently, last year December to be more accurate. The worst thing is that it was the Covid pandemic and I could not even see him off by his side. I had no regrets as I had an understanding that it was not within my control. But now as I relive the happy times that I had spent with him, was it really worth it. Was it really worth it to relive happy times but to find sadness instead of joy, grief instead of excitement? The moment a person opted to form a happy relationship would have an end. And the end will hurt the other party for as long as they live, even if it’s not continuous.

Conclusion

So… is it really worth it to make more happy memories? Can a person truly survive when all those happy memories become sad ones? But this forms a paradox as a person won’t be happy if they do not experience it in the first place. Aren’t we technically borrowing happiness that comes with a price to pay at the end, or perhaps the next day even? Death comes to everyone and I occasionally thought that it was best to go first, but that’s just selfishness in the end. Yet a person still forms memories, as it is unavoidable and everyone has resigned themselves to such a fate even if they avoid in unconsciously. Time will soothe the would only for it to reopen again perhaps bigger than ever if ever triggered.

Everyone goes through this sooner or later. Everyone has to suffer. Unless you aren’t human.

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kmc

Student, writings of my personal opinions on certain things (Usually 1 poem and 1 story every week, can be only one poem a week when busy)